Is Your Energy Field Healthy?

What does your body energy field say about you and your health?

Every one of us has a magnetic field that emanates from our body, so that when we approach another human being, our two fields meet before our physical bodies interact as we greet and touch to shake hands or give a hug. We register the vibe intuitively and subconsciously, before we engage consciously and physically.

Every electrical signal, within cells, between individual cells, among clusters of cells that form an organ, signals from organ to organ, signals along the nerve fibres to the brain and back to the body, the millions of electrical firings that are continuous and constant in the living body, generates a magnetic field. This body-field is unique and constantly moving, expressing into the outer world the electrical activity of our inner workings.

The field you create when you are healthy and vibrant is very different from the field you emanate when tired, depleted, unwell, angry, frustrated or depressed. Learn how to balance your energy field with Touch For Health kinesiology muscle and energy balancing.

Bruce Lipton tells us that “the mind is an energetic field of thought.”

The energy of thoughts and intentions contribute to your body-field. Wiring up the brain to an electro-encephala-graph, EEG, every thought produces its own firing pattern of neurons that is recorded on the graph printout. Functional Magnet Resonance Imaging, fMRI, measures blood flow changes occurring as you process a thought or visual stimulus. Now we can also read the field around the brain with an MEG, a magneto-encephala-graph, without using probes or contacts on the body at all. The whole head activity measured by MEG can capture the result of the brain processing visual stimulation, or spontaneous oscillating activity, such as alpha rhythms.

So, what does all this mean?

In the documentary movie, The Living Matrix, Bruce Lipton said, “the magneto-encephala-graph is a probe outside of the head, and it reads the fields of neural activity, without touching the body. Basically, it says when you are processing in the brain you’re broadcasting fields.”

What kind of field do your thoughts and body activities and health broadcast?
What do others intuitively pick up about your body-field?
Some people have the specific gift that allows them to read the body-field without MEG. Not everyone has developed this gift, but everyone can get feedback about the inner body and brain activity through muscle response monitoring. When you learn Touch For Health kinesiology a whole new world of awareness opens up.

Touch For Health 1 is due 7th & 8th October. Contact me for details.

Cheers, Anna
PS. Scientists and researchers call it the body-field. You might know it as the body’s aura.

Believe It Or Not

In the Brisbane Courier Mail this morning I read about a research team scouring Gold Coast hinterland for signs of existence of yowies. The was an article by Geoff Shearer. Believe it or not, this is serious scientific research.

Ranae Holland, research biologist, has a Bachelor of Science degree and is part of the yowie research team, but remains a sceptic at this stage. In case you are new to Australia, a yowie is a legendary ape-like creature that shuns human contact, but occasionally leaves footprints behind or is heard in the night. This Ozzie research dovetails with Oxford University scientists and others. Queensland expedition in the wilds of the Gold Coast are one of 20 such research expeditions, on the hunt round the world looking for evidence of strange creatures in our midst. Their aim is to get DNA samples to determine their genesis.

What the Oxford study is about is if you truly are a scientist you should be constantly challenging the established norm,” Holland said.

There are a lot of academics trying to get involved but (they) will not risk their reputation,” says James Fay, a member of the Australian team. “Science hasn’t been as open-minded as you would think.” … Really!

Reading that makes me ask what else “Science hasn’t been as open-minded as you would think” in terms of serious research. Being actively involved in clinical application and the teaching of kinesiology for 30 years, in private workshops and ten years at a registered college, has given me many opportunities to encounter “Science hasn’t been as open-minded as you would think.”

Actually it is the medical practitioners who have been the least open minded.

Believe it or not, research has been conducted on many aspects of alternate medicine to the point that body/mind medicine is now commonly recognized as real, a holistic approach is encouraged, and acupuncture, which is energy medicine, is used in medical clinics and hospitals too. Other forms of energy medicine have also been proven to be effective, including kinesiology.

This research has often been conducted by disenchanted medical practitioners and university professors as well as curious students whose bias has not yet been set by medical dogma. These are the ones who risked their reputation, refused to continue giving medications that are ineffective and cause so many detrimental side effects or direct harm. So they went in search of a better alternative. After all, the oath medical practitioners take admonishes, “first, do no harm.”

If the possibility that yowie’s, bigfoots, sasquatches, and yetis may have a recognizable DNA attracts scientific research, and is based on reported sightings round the world over eons, it makes me wonder. What if all who engage in holistic medicine over centuries may have a discernable DNA worthy of research, maybe even an energetic link. Believe it or not, it just might be so.

How Stress Can Get To You

We keep hearing that stress is damaging to our health. Actually stress has its place as a motivator, a stimulator to action. But too much of this useful stress becomes distress – now that’s how stress can get to you. So how do you know when you have crossed from stress into distress, from useful stress into destructive stress?

Under extreme or sudden stress various glands are triggered into action and release hormones to deal with the threat, the sudden demand or the overload in our personal world. It’s the body’s automatic reaction that bypasses rational thinking. This is your fight or flight, self-preservation, knee jerk reaction that floods your body with adrenaline (called epinephrine in USA) and cortisol secreted by your adrenal glands along with other hormones.

Adrenaline is produced during high stress or exciting situations. This powerful hormone is part of the body’s acute stress response system, known as fight or flight.

Under stress Adrenaline:
– stimulates the heart rate
– contracts blood vessels
– dilates air passages
– increases flood flow to muscles

Cortisol is one of the hormones that rises rapidly under high stress and is produced by your adrenals, situated on the top of your kidneys. Cortisol is not a bad guy in the system. It is part of regulating normal everyday activities, like getting you out of bed in the morning. Cortisol tends to peak in the morning and decrease as the day progresses. This hormone is essential for life and is high only under high stress, and is low when you are going about your normal daily business in a relaxed state. It rises and falls according to need.

Cortisol regulates:
– how we use fuel, our glucose metabolism
– regulates blood pressure
– regulates insulin release for blood sugar maintenance
– regulates rapid fat and carbohydrate metabolism in emergency
– impacts on immune system balance
– involved in inflammatory response.

Cortisol increases levels of blood sugar to help the body to adapt to changing situations or circumstances that provoke stress, to stand and fight or take off and escape. Cortisol is responsible for about 95% of stress adaption in your body.

When you are relaxed cortisol is low but rapidly increases when you are under stress so its key job is to keep blood sugar levels appropriate during stress and relaxation. The problem can be that when the stress has passed the cortisol levels may stay high for some time. If stress occurs on a regular basis, like daily deadlines and strict time frames, then the cortisol does not have a chance to drop down in the brief moments of relaxation. This can lead to adrenal exhaustion and chronic fatigue, with blood sugar irregularities, immune system deficiencies, anxiety, panic attacks, depression and various degenerative diseases.

Continuous high levels of cortisol can interfere with serotonin and dopamine production, two neurotransmitters that affect mood and sense of well-being.

General Adaption Syndrome – GAS

It’s important to recognize how stress can get to you. Under stress your body has to adjust or adapt and functions differently from your healthy norm. It does the best it can to regain balance within the changed circumstances. This is known as General Adaption Syndrome and has three recognizable phases.

Phase One – Alarm: immediately activates the nervous system and adrenal glands to increase energy for defence or offence.
Phase Two – Resistance: activates the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis, the three primary glands that manage our response to stress, often referred to as H-P-A axis. These glands together regulate energy use, immune system activity and digestion. Under stress they instantly increase energy for fight or flight, and reduce energy to immune system and digestion while you are engaged in survival activity in the moment.
Phase Three – Exhaustion or Overload: prolonged stress, or often repeated stress, without opportunity for recovery, leads to breakdown of the weakest body function and dis-ease. The most common diseases in the developed nations of the West are hypertension, strokes, heart attacks, diabetes, stomach ulcers, neck and back pain, to name a few.

Signs of Stress

Know how stress can get to you. The cause of stress can be physical, mental, emotional, or environmental and the adaption to the stress will involve all these aspects. The body will do the best it can to stay productive and effective under the stress load. But the signs will become evident, not always to your self, but often to others with whom you interact.

Physically the tension in our muscles can increase and we become rigid, with neck, jaw and back pain as a result. Tension headaches are common, as are twitches and tremors and poor sleep. Dry mouth and throat can indicate very low levels of digestive juices for effectively gaining nutrition from your food, and obesity can result from comfort eating and storing instead of burning foods consumed. Bowels become over active or under active, or both in turn. Cold sweaty hands and itchy skin are further indicators, as are increased heart rate, pounding heart, high blood pressure, and shallow breathing.

Mental stress shows as forgetfulness, preoccupation, lack of concentration, diminished productivity, past focused or future obsessed, disorganized, negative view of everything, undermining self talk, loss of meaning of work and life in general.

Emotional signs of stress can be irritability, depression, angry outbursts, anxiety, impatience, narrowed focus, low self-esteem, loss of confidence, inability to make decisions, lack of interest, tendency to cry easily, compulsive thoughts, and feeling a victim. We become angry or fearful.

Behavioural changes include increased alcohol consumption, under or over eating, smoking, withdrawal, carelessness and being accident prone.

To Reduce Stress

Make sure you recognize how stress can get to you so you can stop it and reverse it. Stress diverts energy away from your immune system leaving you vulnerable to health breakdown. Medically prescribed adapaogens have been in common use for stress over the last 50 years but the results are less than favourable with many side effects and long-term problems.

Traditionally herbs from the East and the West have been reliably used in many parts of the world to reduce stress, along with acupuncture, tai chi and various martial arts, meditation and other practices. Psychologists have applied various systems and processes with varying success.

Since the 60s and 70s Kinesiology has provided effective options that allow the body and its nervous system to identify the best way to reduce stress, lift energy, and bring meaning and value back into the events of our days as we each walk our life path.

Also see: 3D “Switch On” for Your Brain
and Stress Release Process

STRESS, SAM and HPA, What’s That About?

Stress is blamed for everything now, from forgetfulness to mistakes minor and major, to depression, overweight, poor sleep, emotional meltdown, health breakdown, poor work performance, to relationship breakup. Pioneering doctors of the 1920s to 1940s researched and collated the various symptoms that we now associate with stress, SAM and HPA.

In the late 1930s Hans Selye, a Canadian endocrinologist coined the term “stress” and defined it as “The non specific response of the body to any demand (stressor), whether it is caused by or results in pleasant or unpleasant conditions.” He first wrote about General Adaptation Syndrome, GAS, now generally know as the stress syndrome, in the British journal Nature in 1936.

Walter Cannon in 1932 established that shock or perceived threat quickly release hormones in the body for access to extra energy for survival action. We are designed to either face and attack the enemy or to out run it. Nothing else counts at that moment as all possible energy is diverted to in the moment survival, putting many functions on hold till the stress has gone.

Stress is a natural part of life and cannot be avoided. Stress is experienced when we extend beyond our comfort zone into new territory, be that socially, in our work situation, in questioning our life direction and changing direction.

Stress, physical, mental or emotional, sets off the same reaction in the brain. This reaction is in two parts, the instantaneous flight or flight reaction initiated by amygdala, the SAM axis, and the slower HPA axis triggered by long-term stress. They have opposite symptoms. Stress, SAM and HPA are part of your survival and adaption systems.

SAM – Sympathetic Adrenal Medullary Axis
HPA – Hypothalamic Pituitary Adrenal Axis

SAM is the super fast fight or flight reaction your amygdala sets into action, totally bypassing any conscious thought process. It’s what happens when driving normally and suddenly a child on the footpath decides to run across the road – without looking – and you slam on the brakes and swerve to avoid hitting the child. That life saving reaction happens in less than the blink of an eye. And you are left with a pounding heart and gulping for breath.

SAM basically reroutes your blood flow to increase your heart rate, feed your brain and the muscles required for action, and limits the activities of parts of your body that are not required in the moment. This reaction settles down once the danger has passed.

HPA on the other hand, is slower in activation and continues to be activated long after the stressor has been removed. Its what happens when you go into “what if I had hit that child,” playing it over and over to the point of being too scared to drive at all.

It is regulated by hypothalamus that sends a hormone to your pituitary gland, both located in the brain, which then sends a hormone to adrenal glands in the body to increase output of cortisol. This is a self regulated system and relies on increasing levels of cortisol produced in the body to feedback to the glands in the brain to suppress the initial hormone cascade. But what if you can’t shut off the thoughts that you nearly killed a child, can’t sleep, can’t eat?

With prolonged stress cortisol initiates breakdown of muscle protein for the liver to convert to essential blood glucose, your brain’s fuel, and for other essential functions to deal with or adjust to the ongoing stress. Cortisol reduces reproductive and immune systems activity until the ongoing stress is resolved, which can be days, weeks, and even years. Stress, SAM and HPA are part of your inbuilt survival and adaption systems.

Who Is At Risk
Any stress you feel is impossible to resolve will keep you in this HPA cycle. This is common with family health carers, those who care for parents with dementia for instance, or for a disabled child. Its common after a failed business venture or marriage breakdown, or dealing with drug addicted teenagers, or post traumatic syndrome of war veterans.

Ask any world class athlete and they will tell you the risk keeping HPA cycle going through over training is very real when the focus is on winning or maintain their world ranking. Over training is a physical as well as mental and emotional stress plus a massive demand on constantly rebuilding the body to keep up with the rigorous training programs.

Even the medical professionals are acknowledging that almost all physical illnesses have mental factors that determine their onset, presentation, maintenance, and susceptibility during illness. Stress, SAM and HPA in active mode means the body is focused on survival with limited resources for recovery from illness.

What’s the Solution

Every body needs recovery time to repair the wear and tear of the day’s activity and life’s stressful experiences. Somehow we need to come to peace with the cards we are dealt in life, change our undermining beliefs and expectations, increase our resilience, adapt and lift our ability to function at our best in varying circumstances, with the least stress possible.

Kinesiology recognizes any imbalance will impact the physical, mental, emotional, biochemical, and spiritual elements of a person and they all need to be addressed and rebalanced for holistic wellness. The body will indicate the path to solutions through muscle response monitoring.

Exhausted Adrenals

Do you suspect you are dealing with exhausted adrenals? Here is a test you might like to do for yourself to get some idea of the state of your adrenals so you can choose the professional health advice and support you need to pursue.

Pupil Contraction Test for Exhausted or Under Active Adrenals

Hold a small pencil style flashlight near the outer corner of your eye so the light shines across the eye not straight on into the eye. Watch what happens in a mirror.

A normal reaction is for the pupil, the black part in the middle of your iris, to contract in reaction to the sudden flood of light.

With exhausted adrenals this initial normal reaction does not hold and the pupil will start to dilate again, become larger, letting in more light, the opposite of normal response. The pupil can also fluctuate, dilating and contracting, and then settle remaining dilated. This is an indicator of exhausted adrenals.

The iris responds to varying light conditions. The iris is muscular and contracts in strong light and relaxes to let in more light when in dim or poorly lit situations or outside at night. Like any muscle if your pupil muscle is over worked or exhausted it can’t hold a contraction for long and will need rest to recover.

Time It

If your pupil fluctuates and then dilates and stays that way instead of remaining contracted when you shine a light across your eye, time it. It may take 30 to 45 seconds before it can contract again. This will give you a marker to check against down the track when you have been making adjustments to your stress levels, lifestyle, nutritional needs, rest, sleep and exercise.

Adrenal function extremely low is labeled Addison’s desease and extremely high is Cushing’s disease. They account for the 5% of adrenal abnormalities. The remaining 95% represent adrenal hormone levels considered “normal”. As a result most laboratory tests will indicate “normal” if you are in the 95% range, in spite of any symptoms you may be experiencing that are clearly linked to low adrenal function. And of course, your individual biochemical make is not taken into account or considered in any way.

One of the most authoritative texts in medicine, Harrison’s Principles of Internal Medicine, states, “Most hormones have such a broad range of plasma levels within a normal population. As a consequence, the level of a hormone in an individual may be halved or doubled (and thus be abnormal for that person) but still be within the so-called normal range.”

Rebuilding Adrenals and Your Health

Each person’s experiences that lead to exhausted adrenals will be unique. But there are patterns to check to help identify the best way to track the improvement as recovery strategies are applied. How you feel is your most valuable subjective measure as only you live in your body.

Changes in lifestyle, including specific foods to support health and adrenal recovery, adequate rest alternating with gentle and gradually increasing exercise is important, building expectations and harnessing beliefs that promote a future of wellness are keys. Any action that can reduce stress is valuable.

Tuning into the body language of posture and muscle response testing with kinesiology is invaluable to recognize which internal organs and glands are struggling to maintain their health. Boosting them with specific acupuncture points for lymphatic clearance, for circulation improvement, and for meridian energy distribution enhances recovery. Emotional Stress Technique will reduce stress, releasing energy trapped in past experiences and make more energy available for your exhausted adrenals on their journey of recovery.

Your thoughts impact on your brain and body and kinesiology muscle monitoring can identify which thoughts and self talk lifts energy and which drags it down.

For more insights and strategies contact me for a discussion of your situation.
See Stress Release Process

Facial Expressions Convey Feelings

We know facial expressions convey feelings. Key facial expressions are universally recognized as expressing specific feelings or emotions, whether you are young or old, from the city or country, from developed nations or the untamed jungle.

We form impressions of the people we encounter. We take in their posture, their gait, their gestures, and we see their facial expressions. All contribute to conveying their energy levels and their feelings.

Every waking minute that we are in the presence of someone, we come up with a constant stream of inferences and insights about what that person is thinking or feeling.

When we meet someone new, we often pick up on subtle signals, so that afterwards, even though they may have spoken in a normal and friendly manner, we may say, “Something’s not right there,” or “I don’t think she’s very happy.”

What is it that we instinctively recognize? What are we reading on an unconscious level that gives us a sense of other emotions underlying the seemingly polite and socially acceptable facial expression? Is it real or is it put on?

When we get it right and read the facial expression accurately it helps us understand where the person is at, be appropriate to build rapport and interact effectively. When we get it wrong and misread the facial expressions, this can easily lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, accusations, arguments and disagreements.

Silvan Tomkins worked as a handicapper for a horse racing syndicate during the Depression. He spent hours staring at horses through binoculars. Tomkins believed that faces, even the faces of horses, held valuable clues to inner emotions and motivations, and he learned how to predict behaviour and outcomes from his observations.

He had a system for predicting how a horse would do in a race, based on what horse was on either side of him, and on their emotional relationship. His prediction rates were impressive and lucrative. If a male horse, for instance, had lost to a mare in his first or second year, he would do poorly if he went to the gate with a mare next to him in the line up.

Tomkins was honing his ability to read facial expressions and graduated in Psychology at University of Pennsylvania.

Charles Darwin noted in his book The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals: ” ...the young and old people of widely different races, both with man and animals, express the same state of mind by the same movements.”

Silvan Tomkins later did his postdoctoral studies in Philosophy at Harvard and joined the Psychological Clinic staff in 1937. He went on to teach psychology at Princeton University’s Department of Psychology and Rutgers and became a much quoted author.

Over the years his ability to read faces and the emotions that created the facial expressions became renowned. He could say what crimes various fugitives had committed from looking at their police photos, could pick people who were lying on TV shows, watched interviews of political candidates, including Bill Clinton, and could give predictions of the outcomes.

So what was it that Silvan Tomkins could see and read accurately in faces? What does our facial expression relay to others? Why would a past win or lose experience, or which horse is in the next box, make a difference to the performance of a horse at a race? How does all this relate to humans?

These are some of the questions we explore in Dynamic Communications Program to uncover the secrets how facial expressions communicate emotions and how you can benefit by reading faces accurately.

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Facial Muscles Express Feelings AND Create Feelings

If facial muscles express feelings AND create feelings, then can we choose how we want to feel and arrange our face muscles so we feel joy instead of sadness, peace instead of anger, confidence instead of fear? Is that possible?

Paul Ekman is a psychologist, researcher and author, and is a pioneer in the study of emotions and their relationship to facial expressions. He showed that facial expressions of emotion are not culturally determined, but universal across human cultures and thus biological in origin. This was contrary to the widely held view in the anthropology world prior to his work.

How did he decide that these facial expressions communicate the same emotion no matter where you were raised?

In early 1960s Paul Ekman was a young psychologist just out of graduate school. He was Silvan Tomkins’ pupil in studying faces and had completed his PhD in Clinical Psychology at the Adelphi University, New York in 1958. Ekman traveled to Japan, Brazil, Argentina, Chile, to remote tribes in jungles in Papua New Guinea, carrying photographs of men and women making a variety of distinctive facial expressions. To his amazement everywhere he went, people agreed on what those expressions meant.

The universal expressions Ekman tested over many cultures are:
fear, anger, disgust, happiness, sadness, surprise.

Ekman proved that Tomkins was right and facial expressions of emotion are not culturally determined, but universal across human cultures and so are biological in origin.

Babies as young as two weeks old smile at the sound of their mother’s voice. Within a few months a baby will pull faces and show disgust in reaction to bitter or sour tastes. Even blind or disabled children smile with happiness, show disgust, cry, glare with anger.

Facial Muscles Express Feelings and Create Feelings
When Paul Ekman and Wallace Friesen were working on expressions of anger and disgust they had an unexpected experience leading to new insights. They were cataloging which muscles were involved in various facial expressions. This meant making those expressions themselves, over and over, while watching in the mirror and watching each other.

What we discovered is that expression alone is sufficient to create marked changes in the autonomic nervous system. When this first occurred, we were stunned. We weren’t expecting this at all. And it happened to both of us. We felt terrible,” reports Ekman.

They were actually experiencing the emotions as they repeatedly made the facial expressions as they learned to activate one muscle at a time and then groups of muscles for more complex emotions. When generating the facial expression of anger the heartbeat went up by ten to twelve beats, circulation increased in the hands, which become really hot. This was stunning to the scientists.

Pulling Faces Increases Heart Rate
To check their findings, Paul Ekman, Wallace Friesen and Robert Levenson set up an experiment with volunteers hooked up to monitors for measuring their heart rate and body temperature. Half the volunteers were asked to remember and relive a particularly stressful experience. The other half of the volunteers were told which muscles to activate, to pull faces, to create the facial expressions that corresponded to emotions, such as anger, sadness and fear.

The results showed the second group of people, who were pulling faces, arranging their muscles without specific emotional input, registered the same physiological responses, the same heightened heart rate and body temperature, as the first group who were recalling a particularly stressful experience. Voluntarily “putting on” an expression can actually create the associated emotional reaction in the body, and of course, change the biochemistry too.

The findings clearly point to the two-way nature of emotions. We can be chatting easily and with pleasure over a coffee, till someone mentions a specific topic or person or event that is stressful to us, and immediately the emotional reaction kicks in, changes the facial expression and activates the physiology of the body.

We have all experienced that at some time in our life. “Why did you have to bring that up? I was having a pleasant time till then.” The reaction comes unbidden, and totally displaces the pleasure of the chat. No doubt the face muscles say it all, even without the words. But we can also start with a particular facial expression and the physiology of our body will change to match. That’s worth checking out for yourself. It’s actually a powerful self help strategy in times of need.

Which Comes First
You could expect that the experience, feeling let down, rejected or disappointed, tired or exhausted, all associated with a drop of energy, would came first, then the hang-dog facial look to express the emotional feeling follows almost instantaneously. But if you feel fine and spend time with a depressed friend or family member and show your concern and rapport by mirroring their expression you could end up feeling as low as they do. Uugg!

Whichever comes first, if we keep holding the hang-dog look we keep feeling low. The face is communicating the emotional state and it’s also creating and maintaining that low feeling. It becomes self-perpetuating. If we can create the feeling, can we un-create it? Can we put on a smile and change our biochemistry? Is this a case of fake it till you make it?

The Solution
One thing is for sure. In terms of Chinese meridian system, activating and using different muscles in the face and body will help to promote meridian energy flow needed for change. And of course, if you don’t move your face muscles, you are not pumping the circulation to bring oxygen and nutrients to face cells, nor clearing the lymphatic wastes products, so tissues progressively more stagnant.

A Touch For Health Goal Balance can support making the shift from low energy to higher energy and better lymphatic flow. Facial Harmony also is a gentle way to release emotions held in the face muscles. Make an appointment to experience the shift for yourself.

Communication in Challenging Situations

We are indeed remarkable beings. But that doesn’t mean its plain sailing or easy at times. Each of us is here to learn, earn, grow, achieve, contribute, within our local community, and beyond on a broader basis. And through all life experiences communication in challenging situations can easily create rifts and emotional pain.

No doubt you have discovered that often it is within our family situation that we have our greatest challenges. But as we master relationships and communications at home we often have the template to contribute at school, at work, and with people of varied cultures from round the world.

One of our biggest challenges is to create harmony and mutual growth among family members. Each person will have their own values and priorities at various stages of life. And also, we start with genetically built in preferences and behaviours, which further complicates matters to the n-th degree at times.

We are familiar with opposites:
– introvert versus extravert
– talks constantly versus rarely speaks
– lots of detail versus bottom line
– never gets to the point verses only sees a point in the point.

When there is no one else to consider, we suit ourselves of course. There is no need for conflict and negotiations. However at work we need to consider the team and harness everyone’s effort to pull in the same direction at the same time, at least some of the time.
It’s the same at home. Some tasks or projects will be a group effort and require group co-operation, working as a family team with a reward the whole family appreciates. Some projects will be for self, for self-expression, for self-exploring, for self-development, to then bring what you learn into the team to the benefit of all.

So what do you do when you feel answering questions or including others needs feels like an imposition, a waste of your time, an intrusion, or unproductive?

I guess it depends on the purpose and who is being fulfilled:
– you yourself by getting on with what suits you
– or the person you want to encourage to increase their confidence
– or the person with whom you want to cement your bond.

It takes a conscious choice in the specific situation. You choose whose fulfillment is the priority to you at the time, in that circumstance, the spouse or partner, the child, the friend, or colleague, the boss or yourself. You get to choose, once you are aware there is a choice.
And also, you will be responsible for the consequences of your choice, that is the outcome that follows from the choice you made on which behaviour to adopt. One of the simplest ways to handle this kind of situation is to include the other party in your truth.

“I’m in a conflict here. I can see what you want to have happen and I have a different preference from you. So I’m not sure how to proceed so we can both be OK. Can you see a way to make it work for both of us?”
“As much as I can relate to what you would like to have happen, right now I have a different priority and can’t accommodate your need this time. Can you cope with that for now? We can have another look at options a little down the track.”
“I see what you are wanting. I have a different preference for myself, but to achieve our common goal, I am prepared to go your way. If the circumstances change I may come back to this point again and reconsider options. Is that OK?”

The Dynamic Communication Program specifically tackles those tricky occasions when having a deeper insight and effective strategies engaged from a balanced state can turn potential disaster into a win/win outcome.

Learn the magic of having the right tool for the right moment. Be at The Dynamic Communications Program and discover how communication in challenging situations can flow smoothly and productively.

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The Face Is A Goldmine Of Communication

Silvan Tomkins, psychologist, personality theorist, author, with a PhD in Philosophy, believed that faces held valuable clues to inner emotions and motivations and could predict behaviour.

Paul Ekman, a pupil of Tomkins, found the face is an enormously rich source of information about emotion. He claimed the information on our face is not just a signal of what is going on inside our mind, it actually is what is going on in our mind. The facial expression is a goldmine of communication, both conscious and unconscious.

The key universal emotions, validated by Ekman’s research with people from different cultures round the world, are fear, anger, disgust, happiness, sadness, surprise.

So we are likely to recognize each of these facial expressions of feelings, but there are time when the facial expression and what we say do not match, because what we are saying is not what we are feeling.

What Happens When We Lie
Put simply, there are times we lie. Whether it is just wanting to be polite, or to cover up a mistake or to avoid creating a scene, facial expressions can give it all away, without your even knowing it. You might say, “Thank you, that was lovely,” or “Nice meeting you,” when you don’t feel that at all.

Whenever you experience a basic key emotion, that emotion is automatically expressed by the muscles of the face – it’s involuntary so can betray what you want to hide. That expression may be on your face for just a fraction of a second, just a flash. You may immediately use your voluntary muscles to try to suppress the involuntary reaction when you want to hide our true feelings, but the truth is already out.

Ekman reported on facial micro-expressions which could be used to assist in lie detection. Videos slowed down to frame-by-frame viewing clearly capture the fleeting involuntary facial expression that betrays the automatic reaction and the immediate recovery using consciously controlled muscles to hide the existence of the original expression.

That micro expression may be too fast for most viewers to pick out consciously but the amazing thing is that the subconscious can and does register it. That’s why we can get a sense that something is not right, not congruent, even if we can’t put our finger on why we have that feeling. So pay attention to your instincts on this. Your instincts can be spot on.

Dr David Craig wrote Lie Catcher and collated just what to look for to pick when someone is lying to you. Developing your eye to notice key tell tale signs can make all the difference between being taken for a ride or getting someone you can trust in a business deal, between knowing when your kids are going to visit friends versus slipping into town, or hiring the right person for the job who can do what they say they can. David Craig’s book provides clear photos of the facial expressions and body language that are a give away when all is not as open and honest in communications as others would have your believe.

And it may make you more aware of your own facial expressions too. When you are in two minds about something, it can show. When you are holding something back, it can show. When you are covering up, it can show. The face is a goldmine of communication and honesty may well be the best policy.

We are not always aware of our expression, yet others observing us can notice. “You look upset,” may be countered with “I’m not upset, just thinking,” and quickly the topic is changed to distract from further prying. So what we may think was hidden from others may not be so.

An incongruent reply, where the face and body language say one thing and the words another, can throw doubt on your truthfulness, create distrust in communications, and block open and effective communication from there on. Your facial muscles express feelings and create feelings that are real.

How can you avoid creating distrust, and how can you repair the damage and continue to build rapport? These questions can be answered in the Dynamic Communications Program. Attend now and learn more
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Tension, Pain, Thinking – What Is The Link?

Are pain and tension linked to thinking? How? Do we experience physical pain more than mental emotional pain? Is limited body movement and limited thinking inevitable as we age? Which comes first, the body’s lack of flexibility or fixed and limited thinking? Is rigid body and thought pattern a sign of aging? How much of our physical and mental deterioration is our stuck thinking based on childhood belief and expectation? Do you ever ponder these questions?

These are the kind of questions you may not ask yourself until your body is in pain. Then the questions come unbidden. What have I done? How bad is the damage? Am I getting old? Can this be fixed? What do I do to fix it?

So, what do you need to know about your body and aches and pains to stay healthy and to repair readily when there is a mishap, overload or accident? How can you avoid a recurrence of the pain? What do you need to know?

Habits Serve and Shape Us
All of us have habits that serve us well and other habits that get us into trouble or limit our progress. These habits will shape our body, our thinking, our health, our relationships, our joys and our distresses. How can we increase the life enhancing habits and identify and reduce or eliminate the life sapping habits?

Teaching kinesiology and stress managing skills I interact with people of all ages. Some are dealing with young children and want safe and simple techniques to help them. Some are looking to change career or add to their existing health care training. Some have had a health wake-up call and want to make changes. Some are curious about how the body works and want be more aware of the best ways to improve energy and health or to stay healthy as they age. Many are interested in how their thinking influences their body function.

Habits Grow With Us
As we grow older our habitual thoughts and emotions make their stamp more and more visible on the shape of our muscles, our posture, walking gait and range of flexibility in movement. How does this happen?

As a baby, a toddler, a youngster we were curious, instinctively experimented, reached for anything new on our horizon, till we became familiar with what was constantly in our home world. This became our comfort zone, a place to retreat to when outer world was too difficult, too demanding, or too stressful.

In familiar territory we didn’t need to make an effort to master something new. We could switch off, relax, zone out, and do only what was comfortable. Our comfort zone is a useful place to rest and recuperate in but once recovered, got our second wind, we need to venture out again and engage in the unfamiliar, the difficult, the new, to stimulate and expand our ability and capacity. This is our life journey of self-discovery and self development. Along the way we learned to recognize stress and tension.

We Know More Than We Realize
Have you ever looked at a person and thought, “he/she is tense,” even before you spoke with the person. What made you recognize and use the work “tense?” We are often good at reading body language. It’s not an intellectual process but an immediate and instinctive assessment of a person’s current state. We know the signs even if we can’t articulate them.

Chronic anxiety for example, wreaks havoc with muscle tone, tensing muscles not for movement or work activity, but as a reflex to the anxious thoughts. We tighten muscles of the body to create a hard shield against the world, against fear of emotional pain, “holding our self together” physically, in an effort to counter or avoid the emotional “melt down” or to prevent “falling apart”.

Our Language Reveals Our Knowing
The common expressions in our language are metaphors highlighting just how familiar this experience is for many of us, either living in anxiety our self or recognizing it in others. Chronic anxiety can set our body tone and over time becomes our habit and our norm to the degree that when our muscles are not tense we “don’t feel our self”. It becomes part of our internal feedback system and self-image and we only recognize self through the anxiety produced body posture, tension, aches and pains.

Our entire history is progressively recorded in our muscles. Each stage of development of physical and mental habits is the foundation for further postural habits that reflect the impact of life events and how we coped.

As the years go by the stress patterns bow us, bind us, trap us in degenerative habits within ever narrower ranges of comfortable activity. We avoid what is not comfortable, what stretches our capacity because it’s uncomfortable. With narrower ranges of extension and flexibility we lose power and strength and become narrower in our range of thinking and effort and connection with our outer world.

Awareness Opens Solution Options
Without awareness of this process happening we make no attempt to slow, stop or reverse this linked mental and physical decline. Releasing the limited muscle range can also release the mind’s range of thought, allowing for new mental exploration, for creative invention, and shifting our view to new or different possibilities to engage in for fun or interest or other benefit.

Various styles of hands-on bodywork like massage and kinesiology address the body/mind habitual patterns, releasing stress held in the physical tissues caused by our challenges, anxieties and fears. Bodywork is not just physical, it also moves the stuck energy patterns and supports the release of body/mind tension.

Regular Body Care
A regular appointment for de-stressing the physical and mental/emotional body accumulations is anti aging and health and energy preserving. Regular muscle and energy rebalancing prevents habits becoming dis-ease. As your body loosens under the influence of caring hands so does your thinking and your interest and choice of activities that you can include in your life regularly.

Attend a workshop in Touch For Health Kinesiology to learn safe and effective stress reducing skills for tension, pain and thinking. Your health and life can become better with Touch For Health Kinesiology.